The new non-guy has been avoiding me, clearly he isn't interested anymore. He responds hours later and never with anything of substance. I could just walk away, that would be the easiest thing to do. But no, I am not in junior high. Adults are supposed to communicate and be honest. So whether he likes it or not, I am making it 'official'.
Here is the text I sent:
well...it seems this didn't work out. I was both a little disappointed and surprised. I thought our three dates went well; I had a moment of uncertainty, doubting myself, but I was hopeful and excited...butterflies included. But something changed for you; I don't need to know what. Contrary to my actions with you, I don't sleep around, and I was a bit nervous. I went for it because I wanted to get to know you better, was extremely turned on from all the kissing :) and thought it might be the start of something. I saw potential. Obviously I read that wrong :( You should have just said something if you weren't interested instead of ignoring me so I didn't seem like a fool continuing to ask to see you. But, I am glad and thankful that I met you; lessons learned. You were the first guy I met out here and it reinforced my readiness and desire to find a relationship, and for that, I thank you :). Second, again, not knowing many people, the little we talked and your wishing me well on the job thing meant a lot. It helped my good mood and confidence during the interviews. And I am happy to report that I was selected as their first choice and the job is mine if I want it. So thank you for listening and rooting me on those three weeks :) I really do wish you the best. You have a lot of really great qualities that most women would find desirable, and I am sorry it wasn't me that you found worth dating. I wish you luck and success but more importantly, happiness. I enjoyed our brief time...and on the off chance you change your mind, you know how to find me.
Guy responded that his intention was not that I looked like a fool. He thought I was great. And then asked me a few benign questions.
Well, what the hell does that mean? He didn't say it was over, he didn't say he still wanted to chat. I just responded to his question and that was it. I didn't care anymore if anything would or would not happen. I am over it and I am not obsessed with constantly checking my phone or hoping I'd hear from him. I am going to get back online and start talking to new people. It was a good experience though and I am thankful that I had that opportunity.