Towards the beginning of my trip, there was a ladybug in the car with me. At that time, I was in the passenger seat and the ladybug was on the window. I opened the window to let the bug out, but it stuck to the window. I couldn't help thinking if it was ManFriend with me, giving me the courage to keep going. After a few hours of hanging out on the slightly open window, the ladybug flew out of the car.
After my halfway point and it was just me in the car, it seemed like I always had a fly in the car with me for the rest of the trip. The flies were annoying - was that ManFriend too? ManFriend was annoying at times with our communication issues. I talked to the flies telling them how much they were pissing me off and to stop biting me...but then I thought maybe it was ManFriend kissing me. haha. Jabbing at my skin reminding me they were there.
I know it is silly to talk to insects or to no one...but I get comfort talking to a person even if they aren't there to listen. Almost like an imaginary friend - but based on a person I knew. It is like talking to myself, I realize that, but it is a little different.
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Thursday, September 18, 2014
Wednesday, May 1, 2013
GO AWAY
Are you kidding me? I log into my LinkedIn account - not that I really use it, but people tell me I need to have one. So I go in there occasionally and just accept invitations. Just now I log in and look at the people who've viewed me....and guess who viewed my profile sometime in the last 15 days - THE MISTRESS...SI's mistress. Why is she checking up on me? To find out if my last name changed? To see where I work (does that even show up for a non-connection)? Isn't it bad enough when I get a call from her (old?) area code - that my stomach drops and my blood pressure increases?
Well, Mistress, I might complain a bit, and I know I am underpaid...but I am doing well professionally, I am on the right path; I have gained a tremendous amount of respect and value at work this past year. And whether I stay there or move to another place...I don't know, but I know the next step will be higher and even more rewarding. Oh and guess what - I have a work trip coming up in Brazil.
Looking back, I feel silly we fought over the same man. I should have let you have him that night I found out about you, but I was blinded by love. And because of that I lost years of my life- something I'll never get back, and for what? A man that didn't even love me? Did he even love you if he kept me around? Those years I should have spent looking for a new job, a new place to live, to relocate, to find a new man and have a baby, to make friends...all things I put off because I didn't know where my life was heading, thinking I'd end up with SI. My 20s being the worst years of my life...aren't they supposed to be the best?
And here I am....getting to the age you were when this all went down - I can understand why you didn't want to let go either - the things I worry about now, you did then. Just be thankful you and SI did a lot more 'fun' things than he & I did and that he didn't ruin your 'fun and important' 20s - the time you are supposed to figure out how to be an adult.
Do I still think about that time? Of course - there were many qualities of SI that I adored and haven't found in other men that I see as a requirement and I occasionally wonder what would have happened if the cheating thing didn't happen - would we still be together? Would I have had a child? What kind of job would I have had? A relationship where we can't stand each other but are still together? I think those are all very common curiosities with anyone - I've thought that way of other men as well. Women, we like to think of the what ifs - doesn't mean we aren't over it - and whose to say it is all thought about in a positive way, I think negative things too.
So, I haven't been lucky in love since him...but I'd like to think it is around the corner...something to make up for all that horribleness that I didn't even deserve.
I have a fabulous family, I own property, have zero credit card debt, a handful of good friends and like I said I enjoy my job. Overall, I am doing OK, and it can only get better. So it took me forever to move on and get over it...but I eventually did.
Well, Mistress, I might complain a bit, and I know I am underpaid...but I am doing well professionally, I am on the right path; I have gained a tremendous amount of respect and value at work this past year. And whether I stay there or move to another place...I don't know, but I know the next step will be higher and even more rewarding. Oh and guess what - I have a work trip coming up in Brazil.
Looking back, I feel silly we fought over the same man. I should have let you have him that night I found out about you, but I was blinded by love. And because of that I lost years of my life- something I'll never get back, and for what? A man that didn't even love me? Did he even love you if he kept me around? Those years I should have spent looking for a new job, a new place to live, to relocate, to find a new man and have a baby, to make friends...all things I put off because I didn't know where my life was heading, thinking I'd end up with SI. My 20s being the worst years of my life...aren't they supposed to be the best?
And here I am....getting to the age you were when this all went down - I can understand why you didn't want to let go either - the things I worry about now, you did then. Just be thankful you and SI did a lot more 'fun' things than he & I did and that he didn't ruin your 'fun and important' 20s - the time you are supposed to figure out how to be an adult.
Do I still think about that time? Of course - there were many qualities of SI that I adored and haven't found in other men that I see as a requirement and I occasionally wonder what would have happened if the cheating thing didn't happen - would we still be together? Would I have had a child? What kind of job would I have had? A relationship where we can't stand each other but are still together? I think those are all very common curiosities with anyone - I've thought that way of other men as well. Women, we like to think of the what ifs - doesn't mean we aren't over it - and whose to say it is all thought about in a positive way, I think negative things too.
So, I haven't been lucky in love since him...but I'd like to think it is around the corner...something to make up for all that horribleness that I didn't even deserve.
I have a fabulous family, I own property, have zero credit card debt, a handful of good friends and like I said I enjoy my job. Overall, I am doing OK, and it can only get better. So it took me forever to move on and get over it...but I eventually did.
Monday, May 9, 2011
Me, a crazy? Yeah :(
I consider myself a fairly sane person. I know right from wrong, I have reason and most of the time I have a sound mind and use good judgement.
But there are times when I fear I am perceived as a crazy woman. I would like to let you all know that if I am perceived as crazy it is because of a man. I don't like to argue or fight. I like calm and happy or at least content.
There have been two times I feel like I turned 'crazy'. The first time of course was with SI after our breakup when he kept promising me things and never following through. He kept giving me the wrong signals so I kept doing what I thought would help, but then he'd get so mad and yell and belittle me and I just kept trying to 'fix' it. Trying to show and prove to him that I was OK with everything...that I was willing to do anything, but I just needed a little reassurance. Anyway. There were times I didn't recognize myself, and I fear that out of the eight years I knew him, if he thinks of me - I worry that it is all me being temporarily crazy and not the real me. The temporary crazy was just because I didn't know how to react when someone I loved confused me.
The second time I feel I got all crazy was this past month with HSK. There was nothing official with him, but again with all the mixed signals I didn't realize what was happening and so maybe I asked too many questions or seemed more interested than I was because I wasn't getting a response. When I finally said something, at least I got the response I thought - which is fine...but I really hate people that aren't honest. Is it so hard? Especially when it turns out we both just wanted something 'fun' - as I learned the last time I saw him that there was no way a future would have been possible because I learned way more about him and realized that I couldn't handle that in the long run. Anyway, all that awkwardness could have been avoided.
I feel when I get all crazy - that I try to over-explain...and that is never good. Men DO think way different than woman. Things that keep at us, that we keep thinking about - never seems to be the same thing a guy thinks about and he doesn't understand why we are so bothered by it.
I don't think that someone should make you nervous all the time or make you feel like you are overreacting or even if you get all crazy...its not worth it.
But there are times when I fear I am perceived as a crazy woman. I would like to let you all know that if I am perceived as crazy it is because of a man. I don't like to argue or fight. I like calm and happy or at least content.
There have been two times I feel like I turned 'crazy'. The first time of course was with SI after our breakup when he kept promising me things and never following through. He kept giving me the wrong signals so I kept doing what I thought would help, but then he'd get so mad and yell and belittle me and I just kept trying to 'fix' it. Trying to show and prove to him that I was OK with everything...that I was willing to do anything, but I just needed a little reassurance. Anyway. There were times I didn't recognize myself, and I fear that out of the eight years I knew him, if he thinks of me - I worry that it is all me being temporarily crazy and not the real me. The temporary crazy was just because I didn't know how to react when someone I loved confused me.
The second time I feel I got all crazy was this past month with HSK. There was nothing official with him, but again with all the mixed signals I didn't realize what was happening and so maybe I asked too many questions or seemed more interested than I was because I wasn't getting a response. When I finally said something, at least I got the response I thought - which is fine...but I really hate people that aren't honest. Is it so hard? Especially when it turns out we both just wanted something 'fun' - as I learned the last time I saw him that there was no way a future would have been possible because I learned way more about him and realized that I couldn't handle that in the long run. Anyway, all that awkwardness could have been avoided.
I feel when I get all crazy - that I try to over-explain...and that is never good. Men DO think way different than woman. Things that keep at us, that we keep thinking about - never seems to be the same thing a guy thinks about and he doesn't understand why we are so bothered by it.
I don't think that someone should make you nervous all the time or make you feel like you are overreacting or even if you get all crazy...its not worth it.
Friday, April 15, 2011
Saturday, April 2, 2011
Better to be busy than bored
Were you worried about me? This past week or so was full of work stress, my busiest time of the year along with some other things.
One quick story from work about a 'crazy' was that this lady called and I spoke to her and answered her question in like 1 minute. A few moments later I get an email from her essentially saying - I just called the office and got my answer, but yet, my email from Monday was not answered, if you don't answer emails take your email off the invoice. I laughed, what is she bitching for? So I respond stating that 1) I do respond to emails, but not instantaneously since it is a crazy busy time of year and 1 1/2 days isn't bad, that I am the ONLY one in the office, and that I honestly don't remember seeing an email from her. I told her I didn't need to justify any of this and that essentially her question was answered - even though it was a stupid question. If she was very anxious about finding out if her credit card was charged, she could have also called the credit card, which she did not do. blah blah blah. She responds, and was still a bitch. I did find her email in my JUNK email folder, which I don't check that often. Some people seriously have nothing better going on in their life, and I feel really bad for them, even though they piss me off.
Speaking of pissing me off..I don't understand why people call me at work to make sure we received a fax. DON'T wait to the last minute and it wouldn't be a problem. On Thursday, I barely got any work done since that is when member dues were due, and all those last minute people kept calling to find out if I got their fax. I started asking them if they get a fax confirmation, and if so...what did it say? Do they have issues with their fax not working and if so...why use it when you can send a check? A complete waste of my time.
So, on Thursday I started to look for new jobs. I found two I want to apply for. The first one writing the cover letter was 'easy', however, the second one which I favor, I have been feverishly working on for HOURS and maybe DAYS at this point. I am having such a hard time with the salary history and salary requirement that they require within the cover letter. I know we all feel we are under-paid, and I truly think I am with my degree and the kind of work I can do...my fault for accepting a job for the wrong reasons. Working for a small company can be really hard because when they are financially struggling...so are you. I don't know how to explain why I want to up my salary by a good number...and if that would be frowned down upon. I don't think my salary requirement is unheard (actually I think it is quite low) of for someone with my degree and my age I just don't know if I can make that jump when they want all that information. If they spoke to me, I think I could totally justify it with examples and even when they see how well I work.
Finding a job is so time consuming. I need to make a change and I have to do the leg work to get it, but it is not easy and I don't know where to find the jobs I want to apply for, they certainly are not on monster or indeed or anything. Going through so many company websites and looking at their openings is better...but where to start? I think I should hire someone to scour the websites and find me decent jobs to apply for....any of you interested??!?!?
Anyway, that is about all that has been going on here. Just a LOT of real work, some resume/job hunting work, and occasionally hanging out.
One quick story from work about a 'crazy' was that this lady called and I spoke to her and answered her question in like 1 minute. A few moments later I get an email from her essentially saying - I just called the office and got my answer, but yet, my email from Monday was not answered, if you don't answer emails take your email off the invoice. I laughed, what is she bitching for? So I respond stating that 1) I do respond to emails, but not instantaneously since it is a crazy busy time of year and 1 1/2 days isn't bad, that I am the ONLY one in the office, and that I honestly don't remember seeing an email from her. I told her I didn't need to justify any of this and that essentially her question was answered - even though it was a stupid question. If she was very anxious about finding out if her credit card was charged, she could have also called the credit card, which she did not do. blah blah blah. She responds, and was still a bitch. I did find her email in my JUNK email folder, which I don't check that often. Some people seriously have nothing better going on in their life, and I feel really bad for them, even though they piss me off.
Speaking of pissing me off..I don't understand why people call me at work to make sure we received a fax. DON'T wait to the last minute and it wouldn't be a problem. On Thursday, I barely got any work done since that is when member dues were due, and all those last minute people kept calling to find out if I got their fax. I started asking them if they get a fax confirmation, and if so...what did it say? Do they have issues with their fax not working and if so...why use it when you can send a check? A complete waste of my time.
So, on Thursday I started to look for new jobs. I found two I want to apply for. The first one writing the cover letter was 'easy', however, the second one which I favor, I have been feverishly working on for HOURS and maybe DAYS at this point. I am having such a hard time with the salary history and salary requirement that they require within the cover letter. I know we all feel we are under-paid, and I truly think I am with my degree and the kind of work I can do...my fault for accepting a job for the wrong reasons. Working for a small company can be really hard because when they are financially struggling...so are you. I don't know how to explain why I want to up my salary by a good number...and if that would be frowned down upon. I don't think my salary requirement is unheard (actually I think it is quite low) of for someone with my degree and my age I just don't know if I can make that jump when they want all that information. If they spoke to me, I think I could totally justify it with examples and even when they see how well I work.
Finding a job is so time consuming. I need to make a change and I have to do the leg work to get it, but it is not easy and I don't know where to find the jobs I want to apply for, they certainly are not on monster or indeed or anything. Going through so many company websites and looking at their openings is better...but where to start? I think I should hire someone to scour the websites and find me decent jobs to apply for....any of you interested??!?!?
Anyway, that is about all that has been going on here. Just a LOT of real work, some resume/job hunting work, and occasionally hanging out.
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Dear Fellow MTA commuters
Dear Fellow MTA commuters,
Welcome back to real life. I know you are all anxious to get to work after being stranded home with your wonderful families yesterday since trains were not running. I give you kudos for making it to the train station- but once you got there I am not sure how you survive. I know two trains an hour seems like such a sacrifice already and then making it a local on top of that plus super slow movement is enough to make all you already stressed people more stressed. It didn't help that our train was an additional 20 minutes late this morning. When the train arrived at the station, I was shocked to see all the pushing to get on. I am not sure if you NEEDED that last seat on the train or if you wanted to watch to see how many people you can get to fall on their asses - but relax, the train wasn't going to leave you there (at least not at our stop). Also, you should know by now that standing in the vestibule by the door is not smart.
As we start our very slow ride to the next stop and people are trying to get on...don't you stop and think what it would feel like if that was YOU trying to wedge between people? Why can't you just walk to the middle of the train, like me, and stand there so there won't be so much pushing at every stop and waiting? Speaking of waiting...did you notice how long we were at each stop today? The doors were open for a good 5+ minutes...for people that are in such a rush and complain about how late to work you are going to be. I would think you would be smart enough to realize YOU are one of the problems. By not placing yourself in a smarter location (ie near the middle) you are making it longer for others to load the train. Also for those of you at later stops - as you are pushing your way onto a packed train, and you hear the announcement there is not one, but TWO trains only 10 minutes behind that have more room (because this train was very late)- why wouldn't you wait for that? If I wasn't in stuck in the middle I would have gotten off so I wouldn't have felt like a sardine. Do you really accomplish anything more by squeezing in to save 10 minutes? You do realize that once we get to Grand Central, it will take longer to get off the train since it will be like a swarm of bees - all at once. I am surprised no one was trampled to death.
I understand the need for personal space, but you must realize there are extenuating circumstances that at times make it more difficult but you get all huffy puffy that people are evading your personal space when you refuse to budge an inch. Speaking of personal space, I would like to thank two gentlemen on train #9013 who started a pushing match. I know the ghetto guy was rude about making his way onto the train and I am sure the other gentleman moved a centimeter - but to act like kids yelling and pushing each other? What is wrong with you? And further...for the one man who was brave enough to interfere - I don't think saying a form of FUCK 50 times helped the matter - and just made the ghetto man even more pissed off.
Further, on our very crowded train, I noticed many young men and women sitting. I know you guys were on the first stops of the train and lucked out...but for those of you in the isle seats - did it ever occur to you to let someone with grey hair who looks old and fragile sit down? Of course you didn't. You saw him, but pretended not to as you peaked up from your Ipad or Kindle before pretending to be too busy. Shame on you. I really hope that when you are still commuting in 30 years no one moves for you - and you mumble under your breath how the young people are so rude they don't get up for you...but I hope you realize that you didn't either so it isn't anything new. (*Oh and don't forget the pregnant ladies)
We have been commuting for quite some time now, and have had other instances where the trains are delayed/overcrowded - haven't you learned these lessons? I hope the next time you are smarter and more understanding about these things.
Common courtesy has been forgotten.
I applaud the MTA - while they got a lot of crap for shutting down yesterday and having these tremendous delays - we can't forget they are helping us by not putting us in unsafe conditions. No one wants to be stranded on a train in the cold with no electricity and no one wants to derail. And if they were operational and these crazies were on there, they would be bitching and moaning about something else. I doubt that 90% of my fellow riders this morning enjoyed their day off yesterday. Granted the shoveling took hours but how many actually played in the snow with the kids/wife and feel young again? My fellow riders...you need to relax on occasion and not get pissed off at things that are so beyond your control and figure out how to deal with things like overcrowded, slow trains and a double long commute.
Welcome back to real life. I know you are all anxious to get to work after being stranded home with your wonderful families yesterday since trains were not running. I give you kudos for making it to the train station- but once you got there I am not sure how you survive. I know two trains an hour seems like such a sacrifice already and then making it a local on top of that plus super slow movement is enough to make all you already stressed people more stressed. It didn't help that our train was an additional 20 minutes late this morning. When the train arrived at the station, I was shocked to see all the pushing to get on. I am not sure if you NEEDED that last seat on the train or if you wanted to watch to see how many people you can get to fall on their asses - but relax, the train wasn't going to leave you there (at least not at our stop). Also, you should know by now that standing in the vestibule by the door is not smart.
As we start our very slow ride to the next stop and people are trying to get on...don't you stop and think what it would feel like if that was YOU trying to wedge between people? Why can't you just walk to the middle of the train, like me, and stand there so there won't be so much pushing at every stop and waiting? Speaking of waiting...did you notice how long we were at each stop today? The doors were open for a good 5+ minutes...for people that are in such a rush and complain about how late to work you are going to be. I would think you would be smart enough to realize YOU are one of the problems. By not placing yourself in a smarter location (ie near the middle) you are making it longer for others to load the train. Also for those of you at later stops - as you are pushing your way onto a packed train, and you hear the announcement there is not one, but TWO trains only 10 minutes behind that have more room (because this train was very late)- why wouldn't you wait for that? If I wasn't in stuck in the middle I would have gotten off so I wouldn't have felt like a sardine. Do you really accomplish anything more by squeezing in to save 10 minutes? You do realize that once we get to Grand Central, it will take longer to get off the train since it will be like a swarm of bees - all at once. I am surprised no one was trampled to death.
I understand the need for personal space, but you must realize there are extenuating circumstances that at times make it more difficult but you get all huffy puffy that people are evading your personal space when you refuse to budge an inch. Speaking of personal space, I would like to thank two gentlemen on train #9013 who started a pushing match. I know the ghetto guy was rude about making his way onto the train and I am sure the other gentleman moved a centimeter - but to act like kids yelling and pushing each other? What is wrong with you? And further...for the one man who was brave enough to interfere - I don't think saying a form of FUCK 50 times helped the matter - and just made the ghetto man even more pissed off.
Further, on our very crowded train, I noticed many young men and women sitting. I know you guys were on the first stops of the train and lucked out...but for those of you in the isle seats - did it ever occur to you to let someone with grey hair who looks old and fragile sit down? Of course you didn't. You saw him, but pretended not to as you peaked up from your Ipad or Kindle before pretending to be too busy. Shame on you. I really hope that when you are still commuting in 30 years no one moves for you - and you mumble under your breath how the young people are so rude they don't get up for you...but I hope you realize that you didn't either so it isn't anything new. (*Oh and don't forget the pregnant ladies)
We have been commuting for quite some time now, and have had other instances where the trains are delayed/overcrowded - haven't you learned these lessons? I hope the next time you are smarter and more understanding about these things.
Common courtesy has been forgotten.
I applaud the MTA - while they got a lot of crap for shutting down yesterday and having these tremendous delays - we can't forget they are helping us by not putting us in unsafe conditions. No one wants to be stranded on a train in the cold with no electricity and no one wants to derail. And if they were operational and these crazies were on there, they would be bitching and moaning about something else. I doubt that 90% of my fellow riders this morning enjoyed their day off yesterday. Granted the shoveling took hours but how many actually played in the snow with the kids/wife and feel young again? My fellow riders...you need to relax on occasion and not get pissed off at things that are so beyond your control and figure out how to deal with things like overcrowded, slow trains and a double long commute.
Wednesday, December 22, 2010
You mustn't be a nurse
Another work story you'll think is alright. I get a call a little while ago:
Me: Good Morning, XXXXX (company name), this is Denise
Crazy: Is this YYYYY?
Me: No, as I just said, this is XXXX. we are not YYYYY that is a different organization.
Crazy: YYYY does blah blah.
Me: Yes, I know that, but that is a different company. you need to call them directly. I don't have their phone number.
Crazy: {starts yelling about something, but honestly I am not listening...after all this isn't for me}
Me: There is no reason to yell.
Crazy: I AM NOT YELLING.
Me: really? It sounds like you are raising your voice at me.
Crazy: Do you check your voice mails?
Me: Yes, occasionally. Twice a week or more. (which is a lie, I check about once a week because there is no point to check more often)
Crazy: Well, I called 10 days ago and you didn't call me back. It is unacceptable that you didn't return my call. Are you a nurse?
Me: No I am not.
Crazy: I didn't think so, you are stupid and an unconscionable person. {then she gets super loud and yells and starts rambling on and on}
Me: excuse me.
Crazy: GIBERISH GIBERISH GIBERISH
Me: Just call the other people and stop yelling, I don't need to deal with this shit. (yes, I did say shit on the phone at work) Then I hang up on her.
But what I wanted to say to this crazy, if she ever shut up would have been "Lady, you should get your ears checked. You are trying to blame me when you are locating a different company. Even if you did call last week (I don't have a record of that in my log) you would have heard our voicemail that CLEARLY states our companies name. If you were listening you should have realized you called the wrong company and then took the initiative to do your own research to find out the phone number of the agency you want to call - instead of just waiting for people to hand you information. Modern technology has been great, and finding a phone number for a company is easy just by going to their website. It is not my fault that you haven't located the number that you want to call. So, I didn't return your call - I really don't need to waste my time to returning wrong numbers since you should have heard it and/or not waited 10 days to make a second call, or even found the number you were looking for in the mean time. So shut up and start taking responsibility for your own actions.
*So, I am not a nurse. But I am not stupid. Far from it. Not only do I have an advanced degree, but I have common sense too. Additionally I am also somewhat 'professional' in that I do not think it is necessary to yell and scream at people - isn't that what bullies do? I am no bully.
Me: Good Morning, XXXXX (company name), this is Denise
Crazy: Is this YYYYY?
Me: No, as I just said, this is XXXX. we are not YYYYY that is a different organization.
Crazy: YYYY does blah blah.
Me: Yes, I know that, but that is a different company. you need to call them directly. I don't have their phone number.
Crazy: {starts yelling about something, but honestly I am not listening...after all this isn't for me}
Me: There is no reason to yell.
Crazy: I AM NOT YELLING.
Me: really? It sounds like you are raising your voice at me.
Crazy: Do you check your voice mails?
Me: Yes, occasionally. Twice a week or more. (which is a lie, I check about once a week because there is no point to check more often)
Crazy: Well, I called 10 days ago and you didn't call me back. It is unacceptable that you didn't return my call. Are you a nurse?
Me: No I am not.
Crazy: I didn't think so, you are stupid and an unconscionable person. {then she gets super loud and yells and starts rambling on and on}
Me: excuse me.
Crazy: GIBERISH GIBERISH GIBERISH
Me: Just call the other people and stop yelling, I don't need to deal with this shit. (yes, I did say shit on the phone at work) Then I hang up on her.
But what I wanted to say to this crazy, if she ever shut up would have been "Lady, you should get your ears checked. You are trying to blame me when you are locating a different company. Even if you did call last week (I don't have a record of that in my log) you would have heard our voicemail that CLEARLY states our companies name. If you were listening you should have realized you called the wrong company and then took the initiative to do your own research to find out the phone number of the agency you want to call - instead of just waiting for people to hand you information. Modern technology has been great, and finding a phone number for a company is easy just by going to their website. It is not my fault that you haven't located the number that you want to call. So, I didn't return your call - I really don't need to waste my time to returning wrong numbers since you should have heard it and/or not waited 10 days to make a second call, or even found the number you were looking for in the mean time. So shut up and start taking responsibility for your own actions.
*So, I am not a nurse. But I am not stupid. Far from it. Not only do I have an advanced degree, but I have common sense too. Additionally I am also somewhat 'professional' in that I do not think it is necessary to yell and scream at people - isn't that what bullies do? I am no bully.
Thursday, December 2, 2010
"I know how to do my job"
Another work story:
On Monday this guy calls the office. He needs to reinstate his certification which lapsed last year for not paying his dues. We sent him at least two notifications before suspending him last year - which he ignored. So today, he needs to speak to me about a "VERY SERIOUS MATTER" to reinstate his certification. He explains he now needs it for the hospital and explains to me what I need to do to fix this for him now. I explain it can't be done immediately, that he needs to pay the money by check or credit card (all very standard stuff). He gets all mad because he sent in a check last week which was returned because he used he wrong address...and now he is further delayed. I inform him that he did not call last week and ask me the address, that our address is on all our letterhead, envelopes, website, etc and that although it is unfortunate, he still needs to send money before I will notify the hospital of his certification (we get a lot of declines and bounced checks). Additionally I remind him that this is not an urgent matter on our end. We sent out our bills on time, we sent out suspension notices on time he was the one that disregarded them and therefore his account became suspended. If he didn't default he would not be in this situation and it would not be a rush on his end either. He then proceeds to tell me what to do. I say, "Yes, thank you but I know how to do my job". He said he did not mean it like that. Of course I said "but that is what you just said. You were explaining to me what you want done, like I don't know what I am doing...but our policy is clear and because you don't like it does not mean I am not doing my job". Angrily he gave me his credit card number and hangs up.
He calls again on Wednesday to ask if it was processed. I said 'no, unfortunately the lady that processes credit cards has the flu and has not been in the office the last two days". He says, "Well when will she be in?" I laugh a malicious laugh and say "HA HA. Hmm, probably when her fever brakes and she isn't vomiting". He did not like that answer, but really - how the hell am I supposed to know when she will return. Perhaps I should have offered to give him her number so he can ask her himself (of course I would NOT give out any one's personal telephone number...but just to get a reaction would be priceless).
Thursday my co-worker is in. I tell her about this guy and then I call him to tell him we can run his credit card. "Hi Dr. X, I wanted to let you know that coworker is in today - boy does she still look bad, but what a trooper. Anyway, if you would like, I will have her process the credit card for you today". Doctor "SEE, THIS IS WHY I ASKED YOU YESTERDAY WHEN SHE WILL BE IN. UGH, I mailed a check yesterday". Me- "Unfortunately I have not passed my psychic test yet - so again, there was NO WAY I could possible have known if she was going to come in today. I am calling to give you that option since you are so concerned about this, I am doing you a favor."
I am not sure if I am mean, rude or funny, but some people I just don't get.
On Monday this guy calls the office. He needs to reinstate his certification which lapsed last year for not paying his dues. We sent him at least two notifications before suspending him last year - which he ignored. So today, he needs to speak to me about a "VERY SERIOUS MATTER" to reinstate his certification. He explains he now needs it for the hospital and explains to me what I need to do to fix this for him now. I explain it can't be done immediately, that he needs to pay the money by check or credit card (all very standard stuff). He gets all mad because he sent in a check last week which was returned because he used he wrong address...and now he is further delayed. I inform him that he did not call last week and ask me the address, that our address is on all our letterhead, envelopes, website, etc and that although it is unfortunate, he still needs to send money before I will notify the hospital of his certification (we get a lot of declines and bounced checks). Additionally I remind him that this is not an urgent matter on our end. We sent out our bills on time, we sent out suspension notices on time he was the one that disregarded them and therefore his account became suspended. If he didn't default he would not be in this situation and it would not be a rush on his end either. He then proceeds to tell me what to do. I say, "Yes, thank you but I know how to do my job". He said he did not mean it like that. Of course I said "but that is what you just said. You were explaining to me what you want done, like I don't know what I am doing...but our policy is clear and because you don't like it does not mean I am not doing my job". Angrily he gave me his credit card number and hangs up.
He calls again on Wednesday to ask if it was processed. I said 'no, unfortunately the lady that processes credit cards has the flu and has not been in the office the last two days". He says, "Well when will she be in?" I laugh a malicious laugh and say "HA HA. Hmm, probably when her fever brakes and she isn't vomiting". He did not like that answer, but really - how the hell am I supposed to know when she will return. Perhaps I should have offered to give him her number so he can ask her himself (of course I would NOT give out any one's personal telephone number...but just to get a reaction would be priceless).
Thursday my co-worker is in. I tell her about this guy and then I call him to tell him we can run his credit card. "Hi Dr. X, I wanted to let you know that coworker is in today - boy does she still look bad, but what a trooper. Anyway, if you would like, I will have her process the credit card for you today". Doctor "SEE, THIS IS WHY I ASKED YOU YESTERDAY WHEN SHE WILL BE IN. UGH, I mailed a check yesterday". Me- "Unfortunately I have not passed my psychic test yet - so again, there was NO WAY I could possible have known if she was going to come in today. I am calling to give you that option since you are so concerned about this, I am doing you a favor."
I am not sure if I am mean, rude or funny, but some people I just don't get.
Friday, November 12, 2010
1-800-I am not stupid
I get a phone call from a number I do not recognize...so I let it go to voicemail. Apparently that isn't good enough for my caller because a few moments later my phone is ringing again.
me: "Hello, this is Denise"
caller: "who"
me: 'Denise. How can I help you"
caller: You called me.
me. 'No, I most certainly did not call you. The phone rang and I picked it up'
caller: you called me twice.
me: 'no, I did not. I am at work. You have called ME twice. The first time I didn't pick up and you didn't want to leave me a voice mail. I have no idea who you are.
caller: 'but you called me'
me: 'no. why are we arguing. I have no idea who you are and I am busy at work. Please stop calling me." Then I hang up
Moments later, the phone rings from a private number.
me "Hello, this is Denise'
caller: 'my wife doesn't speak English well, but she wants to know why you keep calling"
me "your wife has called me. This is now boarder line harassment. I have no idea who you and your wife are. I have no need to speak to you. PLEASE STOP CALLING ME'
caller: 'oh my. I am sorry'
me: 'yes, you should be. now if you don't mind, I must go. All this harassment and I have work to do'
And luckily that was the last of them. My co-worker was in my office for these conversations and she was laughing. So, it wasn't really harassment yet...but it could very well escalate to that point. I mean. So, even IF I did call her (I did not), and I called by mistake so I hang up...do people really think they need to call that number and ask them questions? I would never do that. I do not call people that call me accidentally. I do not call people that don't leave me messages. I do not give people at the wrong end a hard time about why they aren't so-and-so. I mean, what does she want, my phone records/bill to show I am not lying? Maybe that is a new scam or something...my willingness to show I am not a liar which leads to stolen identity. You never know.
People have major issues if they have all this free time where they think it is OK or normal to give strangers a hard time about something they had no control over. Perhaps I should give you their number and you call give them a taste of their own medicine.
me: "Hello, this is Denise"
caller: "who"
me: 'Denise. How can I help you"
caller: You called me.
me. 'No, I most certainly did not call you. The phone rang and I picked it up'
caller: you called me twice.
me: 'no, I did not. I am at work. You have called ME twice. The first time I didn't pick up and you didn't want to leave me a voice mail. I have no idea who you are.
caller: 'but you called me'
me: 'no. why are we arguing. I have no idea who you are and I am busy at work. Please stop calling me." Then I hang up
Moments later, the phone rings from a private number.
me "Hello, this is Denise'
caller: 'my wife doesn't speak English well, but she wants to know why you keep calling"
me "your wife has called me. This is now boarder line harassment. I have no idea who you and your wife are. I have no need to speak to you. PLEASE STOP CALLING ME'
caller: 'oh my. I am sorry'
me: 'yes, you should be. now if you don't mind, I must go. All this harassment and I have work to do'
And luckily that was the last of them. My co-worker was in my office for these conversations and she was laughing. So, it wasn't really harassment yet...but it could very well escalate to that point. I mean. So, even IF I did call her (I did not), and I called by mistake so I hang up...do people really think they need to call that number and ask them questions? I would never do that. I do not call people that call me accidentally. I do not call people that don't leave me messages. I do not give people at the wrong end a hard time about why they aren't so-and-so. I mean, what does she want, my phone records/bill to show I am not lying? Maybe that is a new scam or something...my willingness to show I am not a liar which leads to stolen identity. You never know.
People have major issues if they have all this free time where they think it is OK or normal to give strangers a hard time about something they had no control over. Perhaps I should give you their number and you call give them a taste of their own medicine.
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