A nice surprise - this post is NOT about SI! Woot!
In college I became really good friends with this girl, T, who lived down the hall freshman year. I soon transferred out of that college but visited this girl occasionally on weekends. After we graduated, we were spending a lot of time together, especially in the summer. Her mom was very ill and passed away and I think that brought our relationship even closer. I always had a wonderful time with her, her family and her friends. I was there through all her boy stories and troubles (SI and I would love reading about all the drama and think we were so happy to not deal with that!). She started dating a new guy - and we even did a weekend ski trip together as couples. I didn't really 'see' them together. He is not who I pegged her to be with, and so many things seemed off. But she was happy and therefore so was I. Unfortunately, my sudden breakup with SI came at a really bad time, as she just got engaged the month before. Of course I was happy for her, but when she kept asking me to go to Bridal shows, I couldn't. And I thought it was very unreasonable for her to get mad that I couldn't do it. I mean, here I was two months later, a complete mess. Realizing I wouldn't be getting married anytime soon...that I was single. I WAS happy for her, but I didn't want to be a part of the planning. Forgive me. Try talking about your babies to someone who can't get pregnant or had a miscarriage - it isn't easy. We slowed down in our talking over the next year, and I only saw her once. Her wedding was beautiful, of course. A little over the top elegant if you ask me. And we never spoke since. I honestly dont' remember if I even got a thank you card.
One of her guy friends is my friend on facebook and has my cell, so occasionally he asks about me. Why didn't I go to her bday party? Why didn't I go X, he had hoped to see me. I missed her a lot in the beginning, but now, not so much. Its been 3 years. Our mutual friend does not fill me in on her life, and that is OK, I don't ask either. I don't really want to know.
UPDATE: A weird turn of events. I pre-wrote this message when I was going to be away. And I received an email from her on Oct 12th. Very vague, asking if we can meet up for dinner in NYC one night. I haven't written back yet. I am not good at rekindling relationships. Last time I tried, the girl never apologized and talked and I was very uncomfortable. And if T is reaching out now b/c she is pregnant or something, then it would be like she is rubbing it in my face with how great her life has been, when mine has been horrible. So, I am not sure if I will agree to this. What do you think?