When I was in Indianapolis, I met this guy at a work reception. Actually, he approached my group. We chatted for only 5 minutes or so but the conversation led to an exchange in business cards at which time I looked at his and found out he lived where I will soon be vacationing. I told him I'd email him closer to my vacation date.
As my trip plans started to solidify, I emailed him saying I'd be in his town these particular two nights, and if he still wanted to get together I gave my cell phone number and said I'd call that day. He responded he'd love to get together, and if I'd like to save a few bucks I could stay at his house.
But then I remembered, I've offered out of towners to stay at my house if they are ever in the NYC area...totally innocent, like "I have a couch and am close to the train into NYC".
Why then did I worry that the invitation would imply sex? Because it is reverse...men are always thinking about sex. But that isn't a fair assumption. And I do always think about rape and murder, I don't trust strangers immediately.
I haven't replied back to this man yet, but I am 90% thinking I'd get a hotel room. I don't do casual sex and even though a one night stand is on my bucket/sex list...I know his last name so he isn't really a true one night stand (if it were even to get that far).