So why then, a family friend member asked, is there 25 participants in our group? Who is this other person. To which I replied, "oh, that is my ManFriend...congratulations, you are observant, I wonder who else will notice." I didn't get any texts for a few days, even my sister's didn't say anything even though they know about him. When I saw 90% of the group out at dinner last night, I heard "so, denise, is this extra person your boy toy"...and so I turned, faced my mother and said "OK, well, there you go, I am sorta dating someone" and she high chirped and squealed
I have no doubt that my mother hasn't known something was up for months, I mean we've been fooling around for 14 months...but you don't know my mother. In like 2 days, I am sure I'll get an email/call from her friends, they will all congratulate me on having a boyfriend Word is going to spread like wildfire. At Easter next week, my aunts/cousins will all ask me about it. And I hate that because I don't know if this has a future and I really hate that she tells people things that have no bearing on other people's lives. She can't be casual about it. It is more like...oh, denise found a husband, I wonder when she'll get married and have kids and buy a house. I don't see it that way, maybe that is just a sign he isn't the one. But I shouldn't only have to introduce and tell my family about possible husbands....shouldn't they be OK with having a different boyfriend every year or few months? Can't it just stay between our family? I get they want me to be happy, I want that too. But I also want no pressure from them and no disappointment when it doesn't work out. I just want them to be like - oh denise isn't around but I know where she is, and I don't have to worry and fear for her safety.
So, the cat is out of the bag, and I thought I did it in kind of a cute way, by having him participate and seeing who noticed - and who was gutsy enough to ask about it.