I was cleaning out a drawer, and found this paper I was saving, but best to add to blog so I can throw away the paper! I do not remember what book I got this out of some dating/or self help book.
I liked it because it was in the here & now. And when you are sad or depressed, it is good to take things one step at a time.
"Approach a man, a date, a party, a trip thinking 'I am not seeking anything other than the experience I might have with you here this evening. I have no agenda other than discovering what it feels like to be with you, in your company, to enjoy this evening. Since there is nothing more that I want or need, I am free to show you who I am, what I think, and if I chose, how I feel'."