I am not sure if I can date someone with the same name as my exes. Unfortunately they are very common names so the odds of meeting new people with those names are quite high.
I never really thought about it until about 4 years ago when, after I moved back home - that my first new friend, Michelle, was married to someone. She re-became a huge slut and then dated/got knocked up by someone with the same name as her ex-husband.
I remember thinking I am not sure if I could do that, especially within a matter of a few months after the breakup. Wouldn't every time you say his name or refer to him...you think if even just a little bit - of your ex? That would be the last thing I wanted [especially] during that recovery period.
Names stick. Not just exes, but even people you don't like. I am sure many of you when considering baby names have discarded a name because you knew someone with that name. Why? Was it because you didn't like someone with that name? or maybe because that name reminded you of a time in your life that you would not like to revisit? I am sure there are a few reasons for your decision.
So what would I do if this same name issue is something I'd actually have to think about? I'd like to say that it wouldn't be a problem. But I feel like I should reserve those two names for my exes. They will always be a part of me and I will always remember them (god help me if during my Alzheimer's I have to live with their shadows!) so I'd like to be able to say SI or Cop#1's name and someone know who I am talking about without having to say a last name or explain who they were, or come up with some horrible nickname like Cop#1.
I've been on a few dates with people with the same names but it didn't get past the first date, so it hasn't been an issue yet. If I have to consider this same name - I will let you know what I decide.