I finally understand the difference between attractive and attracted.
Stiff, I found attractive, but I wasn't sure if I was attracted to him. I didn't realize this existed. Until recently, all the men I've found attractive were the same men I was attracted to.
I met a new man last week, I am not sure I am attracted to him either...but then again, I am not sure I found him attractive when I saw him. So this makes sense.
Of course attraction grows on you. So, we'll see what happens.