I've said it over and over again. If you've been out with someone more than 5 times and/or if you slept with them a few times...you shouldn't just let if "fade" by ignoring them. We are old...what's wrong with honesty?
The guy I've been talking to for a month started to ignore me after I sent a text about kissing. I didn't text him for 5 days, and he didn't text me either. A passive-aggressive move I made after he didn't acknowledge my text was to update new photos of me on the dating website we met through. A few days later he did the same.
I don't know why I got upset when he ignored me. Was it the mixed signals? Inviting me to watch a movie but yet only peck on the cheek? I am not sure I liked him. He was a challenge, and I love challenges. He was like a clam. Sealed shut. I had to work hard to get him to elaborate on responses. He barely asked me any questions after date #1. But, for some reason, I enjoyed his company.
I finally texted him "All week I expected to receive a text from you. So, it didn't work out romantically, but if you need a friend..."(and a little something about work). He responded he'd really like to be friends, and then we have a decent dialogue. Towards the end I say "anyway, I am glad you want to be friends (I've never suggested friends to any guy I attempted to date) but without attraction/passion friendship isn't a problem" and he responds "it's not you. I haven't felt passion in a long time."
Yeah, he mentioned that the night I met his ex-girlfriend...and how they didn't have any passion for 2 1/2 years but stayed together.
See. Open and honest communication. It ended well. I didn't need closure - but I felt like I needed to acknowledge the fact that he ignored me and confirm that I wasn't going to pursue him.
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