Friday, October 4, 2013

a possible dinner with ManFriend?

I heard from ManFriend yesterday afternoon.  This threw me off guard because I never thought I'd hear from him again, and I was OK with that.

He told me he wanted to reach out for a while, but he was re-diagnosed with cancer, and that upon hearing he contacted me because I was always so supportive and caring.

He continued to fill me in on his life and how great its been since he moved.  I felt like he was rubbing it in my face, I stayed quiet and didn't offer too much information.  Then he said something about what a wonderful person I am.  I lashed out. Modesty aside, I know I am wonderful, I certainly don't need him to tell me that, especially because in the end he treated me like a worthless nobody.  He apologized for his behavior saying that he probably needs therapy and end of relationships are hard on him.  He wishes he could go back and change things, but obviously he cannot.

I didn't want to hear his excuses and I told him I would change a lot of things too....but I can't, but there are many ways to apologize or show thanks.  None of what he said or did was sincere.

So then he asked to see me, take me out for a 'I'm sorry dinner'.  I didn't respond.

I feel bad his cancer is back...and if this is his reality check that he could die and wants to see me one last time, I can't be a bitch and not do it.  But I don't want to see him again....our magnetism is so strong.

What do you think?

8 comments:

  1. I don't know you, but I've been reading your blog, and it's actually been great to see you move past him after what was obviously a terrible breakup. I think you should skip the dinner. He might be an asshole with cancer, but he's still an asshole. I mean, if he's seriously, literally dying, then maybe see him one last time, but it doesn't look like that's the case at this point.

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    1. Thank you for reading!!
      You are correct, he isn't at the death part. he will start chemo and then in a few months if it didn't work, he'll do some sort of experimental thing.

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  2. Hi Denise, I don't think that you need to consider that every man would be just trying to sleep with you, but THIS one definitely is. This guy is so terrible that when you wrote that he had cancer, my first response was that I'd need proof of that before I even believed it. And the very fact that a stranger might think that is very telling about ManNotEvenYourFriend.

    It's too bad that he is so damaged, but the one thing you can believe is that the beginning, middle and end of the possible dinner story with manfriend is contained in this blog. You'll meet him, of course it will be somewhere with a bed. You'll kiss. You'll sleep together for 2 minutes. And there will be no dinner. He is a dirtbag and you would be abusing yourself if you did it. I really mean that. He is an abuser, and if you allow him to do any of this to you again, you are abusing yourself worse then he is. He sucks. And if he is sick, it's because of the terrible things he does to people. You.

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    1. Thanks for reading and for your input! I love the ManNotEvenYourFriend name, how fabulous and true!
      I never doubted the return of his cancer, I hope people don't joke about things like that. And just finding out the evening before talking to me...he was probably in shock.

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    2. I worked with a woman once that faked having cancer to manipulate her scheduled work hours. So, I'm admittedly jaded on what people will do to get their way. I often don't realize how much that experience affected me.

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  3. I was in a relationship with a man like this all during college and a few years after we graduated..We would break up and he would call back every few months. we too were so physically attracted to each other. I then met my husband and he would continue to call.Your man friend sounds so similar..I know its hard to stay away when the attraction is so strong..But, believe me you will be so better off..

    On another note..I see that you have been to Katies Cottage for a tea leaf reading,,Went last month with a few friends.We went for fun,but turned out to be a nightmare..Told a friend her husband was going to die young and predicted another death..VERY UNETHICAL..Consulted with a friend who reads tarot cards and was appalled by this..
    Just was wondering what you and your friends thought of their experiences?
    Many blessings to you....

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    1. At Katie's Cottage, one lady did tell my sister that her mother-in-law would die around the holidays...didn't happen last year, maybe this year? maybe next year? And about 40% of my readings said I would outlive my husband. This isn't the only place that mentions death...3 weeks ago I went to Moona's Spiritual Room in Rye and she said up front that she says it as she reads it and it includes death...and if you have a problem tell her right then. I believe a place I went to about 8 years ago spoke of death too...I don't think they tell you when you are going to die, but those around you impact your life. Something to mention at the start of any reading if it is a topic you want to avoid. I am surprised they'd mention death of someone so close to you though...because it really shakes you up and then that is all you think about. I agree it isn't right.

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  4. Yes, my friend is a mess, said death was soon..Consulted with a psychic..Informed me that death is very hard to predict free will being what it is...Also, she said tea leaf interpretation can be off the mark because they are dealing with interpretation of symbols..She intuits death if someone is gravely ill and nothing can be done. She said it was very inappropriate..I'm not against using divination and have had many psychic readings but to predict death is wrong and whatever higher being you believe in has the final say in this matter..So,tell your sister to rest easy and a lesson for all of us, not to buy into predictions so easily being good or bad.

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