Here are attributes that are important to me, in no particular order whatsoever...
- not cocky/conceited/know it all
- hard worker
- at least a little handy (basics)
- able to talk about feelings/problems
- want to talk things through instead of ignoring or giving up
- OK with some public displays of affection like holding hands or small kisses
- respects everyone as well as my own personal choices/opinions
- sincerely cares about me and my well being and makes me believe it
- happy, positive, optimistic person
- has dreams, goals and aspirations and tries to do them
- makes me smile
- fun to be with
- non-smoker
- non-drug user
- someone my family likes
- likes my family
- is OK with doing things with my family and his family if he has one
- has a sense of adventure - nothing too crazy, but a smidgen more than me
- wants & enjoys doing things together - including out of the house
- is OK staying in, finding a show/movie to watch together
- can cook at least a few things, not completely helpless
- likes to have people over on occasion and cook/entertain them
- can talk to others better than my ability to do so
- can be serious when need to be, but not 100% of the time
- makes me laugh
- OK with walking hikes, beach, trying new things
- enjoys to travel
- enjoys site seeing, not just a beach bum
- open to compromise
- not a slob
- dresses well - not sloppy and dirty, but not into designers and the latest look
- does not take more time to get ready than me
- enjoys his work
- doesn't constantly complain
- has/can handle a work-life balance
- doesn't talk down to me or talk to me like a child
- is thankful for even the small things I do for him
- is kind to old and disabled persons
- has both some common sense and some book smarts
- has been in a 'real' relationship before and understands the basic relationship practices
- gives me flowers, a card or something homemade or simple for no reason
- thinks of me throughout the day
- misses me when we are not together
- is attractive, in my eyes
- is attracted to me
- is a fantastic kisser
- a great lover. varies with sweet/romantic, quick/urgency and everything in between
- has sexual stamina
- knows how to 'push my buttons' sexually
- has similar morals/values as me
- has similar ideas on how to raise children
- is/will be financially secure and able to manage money
- adores/cherishes me
- has a few close friends
- not a criminal
- balances me. Things I am helpless with he can help and things he is helpless with I can help
- lets me take care of him when he is sick
- takes care of me when I am sick
- can be spontaneous, but can also plan in advance
- takes the initiative to do/plan something for us
- is a good driver
- doesn't slurp all his food/drinks
- doesn't keep his phone on speaker all the time
- doesn't require a lot of coffee/caffeine to function
- sports doesn't rule his life/schedule
- does not snore/gasp for air
- is in good health
- is helpful around the house
- is a little romantic
- does things he says
- is faithful
- surprises me, on occasion
- lets me fall asleep with my leg or arm on him
- enjoys sex in the morning
- if we have children, remember to make time for us....dates, sex, talking
- if we have children, a good, helpful, loving father
- honest
- is able to protect me physically if I was in danger
- passionate
- respects me and my time
- mature
- thoughtful
- dependable/reliable
- understanding
- responsible
- doesn't have excessive back hair and the rest of his body hair is low to normal...not like an ape
- nice teeth, and must have all of them
- must be able to kill bugs
- not emotionally, verbally, or physically abusive
- doesn't need constant reminding
- doesn't keep me waiting by the phone or worrying
- emotionally supportive
- our love seems effortless because we are on the same wavelength
- we can talk about anything and everything
- he doesn't make me cry
- I don't doubt why or if I love him and/or if I want to be with him
- is a 'gentleman'
- does not waste time playing video games
- I am 100% comfortable around him
- loves me (and I love him)
I wrote a list like this once. I think its good to just "put it out there", not use it as a check list.
ReplyDeleteOnce you know what you REALLY want, not what you are "supposed to want" it makes it easier to find it. (i think, hehee)