Last night we celebrated my sister's 30th birthday. Months ago I started asking my sisters what we should do to celebrate this milestone. No one liked my suggestions, so we did nothing. Then 2 weeks prior to her birthday they are like - so what are we doing??? I suggested just to eat, I even suggested a restaurant - however that closed. Because of that, this little party became very stressful and uncomfortable for me. I was ready months ago to plan. I do not like last minute put togethers. There were too many cooks in the kitchen that had no input until of course the last minute. I do not feel that we should be picking out catered food the afternoon before the party. I do not think sending out an email invitation a week before the party is acceptable. I have so many problems with it...and since my two other sisters (not counting the bday girl) had completely different laid back thoughts...the party was half-assed. One sister and I thought we can ask for a little money to put towards food/drinks 10 - 20, still a lot less than if we went to a restaurant. I had more food on the menu, but then we had no idea how many people would show up...they figured 10, so they cut down the food. They brought half things (chips no dip -- but I was smart enough to know them by now that I picked it up before I went over). We gave back the money and for good reason - it was ridiculous. Even one friend was like, 'this is the most ghetto party ever' and I totally agreed.
I know I am a type A. I like to plan. I don't like doing things at the last minute. I figured they didn't like thinking about this in March...they didn't like my suggestions...fine. I'll take the back seat. But doing that and watching them do nothing really annoyed me. I would rather just have done it all myself.
I feel really bad talking about my family this way. I do. I hope not to have to be in a situation like this where I take over at the last minute and I look like this unorganized unthoughtful person.
On a happier note, I drank a bottle of wine and two beers. Waking up for work this morning was tough.
I am the same way. I hate doing things last minute. I am anti-spontaneous. I want to plan things and plan them well. I can be annoying about it and an over-planner, but that's me. It makes me feel better to have a plan - like I have control over it. Without that plan, I feel so anxious and annoyed. It's ridiculous.
ReplyDeleteI really am trying to be a bit more relaxed and go with the flow though. I still need my structure, but sometimes I have to be flexible. Sometimes.